Greathearted
A private 8-week mentoring journey for people navigating faith deconstruction, religious trauma, and life after church.
Rebuilding self-trust, meaning, and belonging after religion
Greathearted
Leaving Religion Is About More Than Beliefs
Many people think deconstruction is about theology.
But for most of us, the deeper challenge begins after the beliefs change.
You lose certainty.
You lose community.
You lose identity.
You lose the framework that once helped you make sense of the world.
You may find yourself wondering:
- Who am I now?
- Why do I still feel lost?
- What are my values?
- How do I trust myself?
- Where do I belong?
- What gives my life meaning?
Greathearted was created to help answer those questions.
What is Greathearted?
A Guided Journey Through Reconstruction
Greathearted is an 8-week one-on-one coaching experience designed specifically for people recovering from religious conditioning and rebuilding life on the other side of faith.
Each week includes:
✓ Private video lessons
✓ Practical exercises, reflection tools, and other downloadable resources
✓ Weekly one-on-one coaching sessions with Jake
✓ Personalized support tailored to your story
This is not therapy.
This is not theological debate.
This is not about telling you what to believe.
This is about helping you reconnect with trusting yourself.
Where we're going
Week 1 - Naming the Story
Week 1 - Naming the Story
Understand the story that shaped you and begin making sense of your journey.
Together we'll explore the beliefs, experiences, relationships, and turning points that formed your worldview, while creating space to acknowledge both the gifts and wounds you've carried forward.
Practical Tools:
- Personal Story Timeline
- Faith & Life Milestones Exercise
- The "What Happened to Me?" Reflection Guide
Takeaway: Greater clarity about your story and how it continues to shape your life today.
Week 2 - Understanding Conditioning
Week 2 - Understanding Conditioning
Explore how religion shaped your nervous system, beliefs, behaviors, and relationship with yourself.
We'll examine the hidden programming of high-control religion, including fear, guilt, shame, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the ways these patterns become embedded in both the brain and body.
Practical Tools:
- Conditioning Inventory
- Trigger Mapping Exercise
- Introduction to Parts Awareness
Takeaway: The ability to recognize old programming when it shows up instead of automatically reacting to it.
Week 3 - Rebuilding Self-Trust
Week 3 - Rebuilding Self-Trust
Learn to reconnect with your intuition, inner wisdom, and capacity for self-leadership.
We'll explore the difference between fear-driven parts and the deeper Self while beginning to cultivate trust in your own judgment, desires, values, and lived experience.
Practical Tools:
- Self-Trust Inventory
- Daily Self-Check-In Practice
- The 8 C's of Self Reflection
Takeaway: A stronger connection to your inner compass and growing confidence in your ability to navigate life.
Week 4 - Reclaiming Your Values
Week 4 - Reclaiming Your Values
Discover what truly matters to you and begin building a life aligned with your deepest values.
Instead of asking who you're supposed to be, we'll explore who you're becoming and identify the values that can guide your decisions moving forward.
Practical Tools:
- Values Discovery Exercise
- Values Ranking Assessment
- Integrity & Alignment Reflection
Takeaway: A personalized set of values that can serve as your compass for decision-making and identity reconstruction.
Week 5 - Grief, Anger & Emotional Integration
Week 5 - Grief, Anger & Emotional Integration
Learn how to process difficult emotions and create space for healing and growth.
We'll explore grief, anger, sadness, fear, and emotional suppression while developing healthier ways of feeling, expressing, and integrating emotions that may have been buried for years.
Practical Tools:
- Grief Inventory
- Emotional Expression Practices
- Somatic Awareness & Breathwork Exercises
Takeaway: Increased emotional capacity and a healthier relationship with difficult emotions.
Week 6 - Belonging & Community
Week 6 - Belonging & Community
Explore connection, relationships, and the challenge of finding your people after religion.
We'll discuss loneliness, rebuilding trust, setting boundaries, maintaining relationships with believing family members, and creating authentic community beyond institutional religion.
Practical Tools:
- Relationship Mapping Exercise
- Boundary Assessment
- Community Vision Worksheet
Takeaway: A clearer understanding of the kinds of relationships and communities that support your growth.
Week 7 - Ritual & Meaning
Week 7 - Ritual & Meaning
Create meaningful practices that support a grounded and intentional life.
Many people leave religion wondering how to create meaning without the structure they once relied on. Together we'll explore purpose, wonder, ritual, mindfulness, and what makes life meaningful to you.
Practical Tools:
- Meaning Inventory
- Personal Ritual Design Exercise
- Daily Presence Practice
Takeaway: Practical ways to cultivate meaning, purpose, and connection in everyday life.
Week 8 - Self-Led Living
Week 8 - Self-Led Living
Bring everything together and begin moving forward with clarity, confidence, and purpose.
This final week focuses on integration, helping you develop a sustainable vision for the future while learning how to navigate life's challenges from a grounded and Self-led place.
Practical Tools:
- The Greathearted Compass
Takeaway: A practical framework for continuing your journey long after the program ends.
Core Outcomes:
By the end of this 8-week journey, you will:
✓ Understand how religious conditioning has shaped your perspectives and effected your nervous system
✓ Rebuild trust in your Self (your heart and intuition)
✓ Clarify your values, beliefs, and personal identity outside of religion
✓ Process grief, anger, and confusion from your religious experience
✓ Develop tools for emotional regulation and self-support
✓ Begin rebuilding healthy belonging and community
✓ Create personal rituals or practices that support grounded living
✓ Develop a self-led framework for navigating life beyond deconstruction
This may be for you if:
◉ You're questioning or leaving Christianity
◉ You're recovering from religious trauma
◉ You've experienced ministry burnout & questioning everything
◉ You're struggling with guilt, shame, or fear
◉ You're trying to rebuild self-trust
◉ You feel lost after leaving the church
◉ You're searching for meaning, purpose, or direction
◉ You're ready to build a life that feels authentic and fully your own
You Don't Have To Walk This Road Alone
The journey beyond religion can feel disorienting.
It can also become one of the most meaningful chapters of your life.
If you're wondering whether Greathearted is right for you, let's start with a conversation.
No pressure. No obligation. Just a chance to share your story and explore whether this journey might be a good fit.
About Jake
Former pastor, missionary, and church planter.
Father of seven.
After spending decades immersed in evangelical Christianity, Jake navigated his own journey through deconstruction, grief, reconstruction, and self-discovery.
Today he helps others find their footing in the uncertain but meaningful terrain beyond religion.
When he's not coaching others, you'll usually find Jake chasing adventures with his seven kids, building something with his hands, or enjoying really good coffee or tea.